Resources for Oral on Women

Just get down there and draw the alphabet with your tongue, was how Eddie Murphy used to talk about oral sex in his stand-up. Our lovers tend to worry a lot about how to make women come with oral sex. They know that is probably the best odds for making a women orgasm beside a vibrator. Other than positions for intercourse, probably no sexual subject has had more written about it than oral sex. For this essay, I am going to talk a bit about some of the resources available for increasing your skill on going down on women. (skills for oral sex on men soon enough)

"Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus" by Violet Blue has been out for about 3 years now. It and its companion book on fellatio are well written and very comfortable approaches to the subject. Blue takes the time to discuss both the physiology and some of the psychology of the subject. Her rather blunt approach is very refreshing at times. One of my favorite moments is where she basically tells you that you are fooling yourself if you don't think you have a few natural curls around the anus. If you are looking for a good basic guide, heavy on the written instructions this is a great place to start.

"The cultural Kiss" by Kenneth Ray Stubbs is goes back to the early 90s, and its art and more sacred approach will appeal to many. Tantric roots are very apparent as you look through this book, as is the somewhat trite/dated graphics and fonts. The print is large, the instructions usually very clear. For a more hit and run approach, this works well for people not interested into much reading.

New out there are three titles: "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner, "The Lowdown on Going Down" by Marcy Michaels, and "Box Lunch" by Diana Cage. Kerner's book works on the philosophy of when a woman is happy everyone is happy. :) It is laid out with good approaches on pleasing females. In fact, the subtitle here is: the thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman. This book will make every women in the world want Ian Kerner, and a smart lover of women can learn a lot here. Michaels has a very unique perspective on oral sex- exercise your tongue, mouth and oral cavities til they cannot help but be strong and talented enough to drive your partner wild. The program takes a few weeks, and thus the sheer level of dedication required is going to be more than most will want to pursue. On the other hand, those who complete should be able to compete for major pleasure giving awards. Cage's "Box Lunch: the Layperson's Guide to Cunnilingus" is a more fun, and irreverent approach. Although it says it is designed for all orientations, the art and author are more gay in approach. But what straight person has not wanted to ask our gay opposite sex friends for sex tips on how to drive others wild. For such a small book, she covers a wide variety of subjects: toys, anal play and more in addition to all the basics on oral sex.

What I particularly like about all these books, is the sheer joy associated with pleasing a woman. Too often women worry about smell, taste, look of our genitals, and how long it can take us to come. Here are multiple authors saying that our lovers can and should revel in all the above. Giving pleasure and taking pleasure should be just that. Enjoy!